One of my single male friends asked me what I’d recommend he do on a second date to ensure he gets another one so here they are my 5 rules for a second date -
1) Impress her – take her for dinner somewhere nice or do 
something different like a walk in the countryside followed by lunch Do not ask her to decide where you should go and at what time, by all means ask her what she’d prefer to eat or about her likes/dislikes but be a man make the plan!
2) Even though most girls would agree chivalry is most certainly dead it doesn’t mean they won’t appreciate a gentleman with manners so open doors, walk her to her car, stand up when she gets up to leave a table, walk on the road side of your date when walking down the street. Manners are small and cost nothing but speak volumes about who you are, what values you have and how you treat people in your life.
3) Listen to her and find out what’s important in her life. Recently I was very impressed when a guy remembered what I had said I liked on our second date and was able to then incorporate it into our third date. Small things make a huge difference.
4) Make her laugh. I’m not saying you have to be a stand up comedian just relax, be yourself and enjoy spending time with her. 
Laughter is the best aphrodisiac so if you can make her giggle even at your own expense then great. On my best dates ever (only 2 in total) I have ended up with hiccups from laughing too much – this is a very good sign!
5) If you enjoyed her company at the end of the date then ask her for a third one. If you play it cool then not only might you miss out on a kiss at the end of the night but also she might get snapped up by someone who did ask about a third date there and then! This happened to me recently. Fellas you snooze you lose! ;-)
Happy dating folks! 
Isn’t it sexist to open doors for women and do all these things? Feminism has taught us that women are strong and don’t need men to objectified like this, they can open their own doors, pick their own restaurant and initiate the first kiss. Trying to kiss a women is might be considered sexual advance that women don’t want and that is getting near the dreaded R word.
Isn’t it more apporiate in this day and age for, Men to wait for women for to initiate, show interest in escalate and give permission.
I think you’ve confused sexism with good manners. Do you not open doors for other people both other men and women? I simply consider good manners extremely important in all my relationships whether they are just friendships or romantic affairs. I would never consider having a rude obnoxious person in my life as this certainly isn’t conducive to a happy long term relationship but that’s just me…Each to their own.
I know from experience (unfortunately) that there are lots of rude impolite men out there so you’ll have lots to choose from! Happy dating!
I am not so sure that open a car door in today’s age, that it is considered good manners. Granted if it is raining and you want to hold the umbrella for her so that she does not get wet. The idea of opening a car door is antiquated having its rules in history. I did write a blog post of my own on that issue: http://killmenow.org/feminism/
However, good manners is good manners and the points raised here were good and worth taking note of.
Thanks glad you enjoyed it! Yes I agree I think politeness is under rated today so manners are more important than ever. Love your blog post. Happy dating x
Makeshift Alpha sort of has a point here. Not all women expect or want to be treated like a princess. The key is to make the other person (and this applies to women too) feel that they are valued as a person at the date, that you are interested in THEM not what you might get out of it. Do things because they are in your nature and not with the sole intention of impressing.
It is too easy to cross the line from courtesy to flattery. When you are courteous, it becomes second nature. When you are doing it to flatter, that will disappear when they have what they want.
And ladies, we really appreciate 3 as well. We like it when you remember details we told you about from the previous date. It makes us feel that we are valued, that you are genuinely interested in us, and not just a meal ticket to you.
Yes I agree totally. These points can easily be applied to both sexes – manners, paying attention to details and treating the other with respect are all key cornerstones of building a strong relationship for the future. Happy dating!
These are all so true!! I wish more guys did #5 because it would prevent so much anxiety on my end!! And, yes, they might miss their chance if they wait too long!!
Glad you think so!
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Problem is, when we do #5 we get accused of being pushy/needy… “hey don’t you know you’re supposed to wait three days?!”
We men can’t win really :p
I hear you on that! The guy I’m currently dating asked me for another date at the end of every date I’ve had with him and he said that other girls have complained about him being too needy but I found it refreshing. I guess it depends on the girl so be yourself and if you want to ask for another date there and then do it! Happy Dating! x
I’d just like to throw out there (from a guys point of view) that if the other person on the date doesn’t appreciate actions that were intended as chivalrous and they’re not quite impressed by a strong male role in date, but that’s the kind of guy you are… Then there’s not need to ask for another date. Do not try to change your own character for today’s social norm. Remember why you’re dating in the first place.
Yes I completely agree with this you need to find someone who appreciates you for you. Happy dating!